Dealing with Anger
We already know that all we can annoy us and we do, then this is easy. Another thing is getting upset and in the proper way, with the right person, at the right time and for just cause, this, because it is not so easy, something that already said the Greek philosopher Aristotle. All we find sometimes offensive warriors in our daily lives, but we almost never know the challenge of properly. On many occasions did flee and we swallow and aggressiveness that we feel, which ends up focusing on our interior turning against us, becoming a banging, because sometimes is so much accumulated rage that this rage just by channeling in parts of our body, ocasionandonos symptoms such as stiffness, headaches, stomach problems, joint, feelings of great sorrow, discouragement and sadness. All of this by having a number of not expressed anger. But although we can not feel what we feel, if you can decide what to do with what we feel, the anger and the fear.
It is not afraid of showing our anger, it is best to not feel, but if we feel we must show it, don’t swallow it, now if, show it in the best possible way. First what we have to do is approach the situation differently. It is decri, when we feel a very great anger, not to think about the breakup of that relationship (whatever that is), but view it as an opportunity to approach the other person. If we have doubts on how to show our anger, first nothing nopermitir let us carry rabies and get thinking and then we put ourselves in the place of the other person and think, we would like the other person to show us his anger, Yes with honesty and willingness to fix it or on the contrary with offenses and lies. Is also very important to take responsibility also of our anger, because if there is an anger also we have been able to do something to acentura the situation, also take responsibility and say that we we who are angry and feel discomfort and not which is the other a person who causes it us, because if so we would be culpandola and responsabilizandola of what we feel, and by very unpleasant as it may seem we dealing with another person we who create our experience, our sense and not the other. Not only it is express discomfort, it must be clearly and concisely express the necessity that datacenters before the person by which we feel disappointed.
If we do not we leave so that the other has to guess how we want to treat us, and therefore give you the option to make a mistake. So that when we are angry and lifted us another person voice, it would be convenient to tell you something as well:-I prefer to talk about at another time in which calmer estes, and not do or same. Toward the angry person, it would be necessary and appropriate to ask him how he feels with what we have said and ask also that is what both bothers him. It is to listen to the other person with calm and not to swallow their anger. We must not forget that each of us It is responsible for our emotions and not another person.